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Last night I was whisked away to my very own surprise Alice Tea Party where I feasted for hours, conversed with the best and laughed like mad. I took this photo with a heavy heart when we started clearing up this morning. I’m going to sincerely miss that space.

I am too pooped to go into details at the moment but I just had to say big love to all my friends and loved ones who contributed to the weird wonderland that took my breath away last night. Most of all, to my boyfriend and his family, for their hours of work in preparation, courage, creativity and soul, I will never forget my 24th birthday, it has been an adventure I could not have dreamed up myself! Thank you for everything! Then to those band of brothers, the three De Kock’s, you guys come from very special stock, thank you for being who you are and sharing that extraordinary-ness with the world!

I will post a full photo gallery very soon, but for now it’s off to bed so this Alice can prepare for another Monday. Good night 23, you gave me OppiKoppi, 2 jobs, night classes, an internship, an electro conversion, Lark, my good friends The B(l)and, my first dubstep event, and the Gautrain. I am very grateful.


“Our critique began as all critiques begin: with doubt. Doubt became our narrative. Ours was a quest for a new story, our own. And we grasp toward this new history driven by the suspicion…that ordinary language couldn’t tell it.

Our past appeared frozen in the distance, and our every gesture and accent…signified the negation of the old world and the reach for a new one. The way we lived created a new situation, one of exuberance and friendship, that of a subversive microsociety…in the heart of a society which ignored it.

Art was not the goal but the occasion and the method…for locating our specific rhythm…and buried possibilities of our time. The discovery of a true communication was what it was about, or at least the quest for such a communication. The adventure of finding it and losing it.

We the unappeased, the unaccepting continued looking, filling in the silences with our own wishes, fears and fantasies. Driven forward by the fact that no matter how empty the world seemed, no matter how degraded and used up the world appeared to us, we knew that anything was still possible. And, given the right circumstances, a new world was just as likely as an old one.”

– Waking Life, To begin again, from the beginning, Noise and Silence.

This post is to correct an error in: Under the circumstances, that I published on the first of September. I posted a quote I scribbled down while watching the movie, and I heard wrong, the true line is: “And, given the right circumstances, a new world was just as likely as an old one.” But when I read the extract I thought it worth sharing. Although I still feel my version is fitting, especially on spring day.


Thanks to the Jones’s for our latest adventure. The Burlesque show was an experience that I wouldn’t have shared with anyone else but the five people around my table. Many adventures still await the six of us! We love you guys.


When my closest girlfriend and soul sister asked me to say something at her wedding I was instantly nervous. I am a crier. I cried when I got up that morning, I cried when she got her make-up done, I cried when I saw her in the dress, I cried (and made other people cry) in the church, I cried right through all the speeches (but hey, so did the groom! They are two very loved people, the speeches reflected this.) and I cried every time she looked at me. There are no photos of me giving my speech, I cringe when I think of the video, I sobbed. I did not speak, I sniffed and snorted and squealed. It took me days to write the speech and I toiled, and teared and borrowed and stole here and there until I got exactly what I felt written down. This was what I meant to say:

Today you create something beautiful and from here you can go anywhere. You begin your journey together serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered by old nonsense. Some blunders and absurdities will creep in but try your best to forget them as soon as you can. I am not young enough to know everything nor am I old enough to speak from wisdom, I do however know this for sure:

Always speak the truth, even if your voice shakes. Grow your roots toward each other underground so that when all the pretty blossoms fall; you will find that you are one tree and not two. Be to each other what pajamas are to the soul.

From Jaco I ask: Be mindful with my best friend’s heart; Find the anecdote to your anger hidden in her laughter; Smile when she makes you happy, and let her know you miss her when she’s not there; Recognize her glowing spirit and preserve it as best you can.

To my dearest friend: I am so proud of you. Not so long ago we were still giggling girls in math class, being scolded for our day dreams. Now I witness you making from the lumber of your life; not a tavern but a temple. Looking at you now, your beauty astounds me. You are going to bless your family with this beauty you walk in everyday.
You are an inspiration, I am honored to stand by your side.

They are such beautiful people and I feel so blessed to call them friends. Your day was breath taking and I can’t wait to post some baby pictures!


Express Mom, one of my very first readers, presented me with this award. She is such a cool lady, and her blog has a profound and honest feel to it, she writes about the Buddhist journey from a very fresh perspective.

This is the lovely paragraph she wrote about my blog: “This blog is inspiring! She does not waste time with long rambling posts, but whatever she has to say is worth listening to. AND she is only 23! In addition, she often creates little crafts for you to print out and enjoy. How thoughtful is that? This is a lady with a beautiful aura that glows through cyberspace, all the way from South Africa to my computer here in Massachusetts. Certainly worth a daily visit!”

Thank you for making my day, I feel very proud that someone with such wisdom honored me in her space!
xxx


A very close friend of mine recently moved to Cape Town, and it broke my heart. Not only has she been an inspiring friend, she has been my mother, my sister, my therapist and most of all my comfort. (I’ve blogged about her before: Some women simply rock)
Before she left she gave me her camera….I know….amazing, right?

Not only did she give me a camera but she gave me this camera, the Canon AE-1. And it wasn’t broken, or neglected, it was just perfect. I own a normal digital camera, but somehow I never got that excited about it. But now I take my Canon with me everywhere. And I’ll be posting the photo’s I took with it. (It might take a while though, since the photos have to be developed, and not simply downloaded.) The giddy excitement of developing a film is truly unique, there is no little screen on the back of my camera, so I’ve forgotten about half of the things I’ve taken pictures of! It’s going to be like opening a trunk of treasures!


This year, for the first time, I didn’t spend my birthday with my parents. I stayed home with my boyfriend, I’ve also had some health problems lately, that caused me to cancel my original big celebration plans. The outcome of the day was uncertain to say the least.

But boy, did he deliver! He served me breakfast in bed, after waking me up with my gift, which is the beautiful camera bag that’s slung around me in the photo. (I’m a horrible, horrible morning person, if you wake me up before nine, on any day, you better be bearing breakfast or gifts.) There after we went for a drive through town looking for cool places to take photos. We ended up at Safari’s, which is a nursery/function venue/student hangout. I was amazed, the place could be a theme park, the nursery is huge and the installations and exhibitions are magical. I almost felt like Indiana Jones in the deep jungle. (There is even a crashed vintage airplane in the tropical plants area! Which added to the entire Indie-vibe.)

We went home to have a swim, it was an unusually hot day, about 36 degrees. And relaxed on the lawn with a lunch of toasted smoked chicken sandwiches that Willem made with love. Finally we just sank into bed and watched movies together.

I always feel guilty when I admit that my birthday is my favorite day of the year, but if one looks at the people I am fortunate to have in my life, it is no surprise. I even received birthday blessings from Malaysia! Thank you to all my old friends, new friends, and family for making me feel so special!


I have always enjoyed animation, and for a brief time I even considered becoming an animator. And then I saw how much work it actually takes! So I decided to rather enjoy it than to slave for it. But because of this experience I have a lot of respect for animators and the magic they create.

When I was still small and bean-shaped I met and befriended another beautiful little bean-shaped girl and we shared a few sleep overs, but her family moved to the UK and we sadly became separated. Our mothers stayed in contact and when we were old enough to work facebook we found each other again. And to my delight Shannon turned out to be such a cool artist and animator! I feel proud to brag with her, and to showcase her work in my blog.

She also does commission work, you can view a collection of her work on her blog: Shannon Animation. I’m also adding a permanent link to her blog.


A little over a year ago I met a friend through a friend at a random event, and this turned out to be one of the greatest blessings to grace my life. Chantelle became a well of wisdom and inspiration to me. She picked me up each time I phoned her with a broken heart and she spoiled me with delicious tofu sundays.

She also helped me with the lifestyle adjustment when I decided to become a vegetarian. Besides being an awesome academic, a yoga instructor, a composer, an artist and a rocking role model she also advocates a vegan lifestyle. (She authors the recipes I include in my links.) Chantelle recently moved to Cape Town to partner a beautiful vegan restaurant, Closer.

When she left I gave her the “give peace a chance” T-shirt she’s wearing in the photos as a going-away present. These shirts make great gifts, they are available at PQ outlets for only R20! I reckon that’s money very well spent!

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